We are almost through what I’ve determined is the worst Mercury in Retrograde in history. Please do keep in mind I didn’t even know what mercury in retrograde was until last year, so my barometer may be a bit off.
On March 1st I’m ignoring the lingering remnants of ol’ MiR and getting busy. Super busy. And I’ll be making as much happen until that fateful day hits once again on June 7th.
But for now while I’m saddled with communication breakdowns and transportation mishaps, I’ll reflect and ponder my wonder years while planning my future that’s so bright I’ll have to wear shades. Bad play on words? Yes, I agree. But I digress.
Over this past month I’ve put a lot of thought into choices I’ve made, which have inhibited my own potential and albeit success. This is also a bit ironic, since there is nothing I love more than seeing people reach their potential. However, I also believe every mistake is a lesson to propel us into success and there is no point dwelling on what has or hasn’t been.
Based on a joint inspiration from Marie Forleo and Cameron Howard, I decided to paint the picture of where I see myself three years in the future. It’s both exciting and terrifying. This is also much of the same feeling I had when I moved from a little ol’ town in Wyoming to Seattle. In fact, I delayed my trip out to the Pacific Northwest by six months because I was so terrified.
I also did the same thing when I planned to move to Austin, TX to pursue a career in music (ok, it was also for a boy). A week before I was supposed to move, I almost backed out because I was now comfortable in Seattle and the uncertainty facing me in Austin was terrifying.
The thing is, all of the times I’ve made big, bold decisions I’ve had at least a dozen naysayers telling me I couldn’t do it. How do you move from Cody, Wyoming to go to school for music business? “Not many people make it in that field, you know.”
When I started my business I heard it all. “You won’t have health insurance.” “You won’t have a regular paycheck.” Blah Blah. Yadi yadi ya ya.
I never let other people’s limitations define me. I set my mind to it and ready, set, go. I crushed it.
These people were open and honest about their fears and it made me face my own.
The ones that can crush you are the ones who aren’t as open and honest. You have a lingering feeling that something is off. That what they are saying doesn’t match up with how they are feeling. And it becomes much more difficult to rise above it when that is the case. Is it all in your head or do they really feel that way and are just too afraid to say it? How do you prove someone wrong if you don’t know what you are proving wrong? And when it refuses to rise to the surface your imagination runs wild and it’s rarely for your greatest good.
So here’s the thing. You can’t make someone tell you how they really feel. You can’t wait for permission from others to be the best you can be. What you can do is set out with that determination and belief in yourself and simply crush it.
Read how to listen to your heart here.